Mistakes mean that you are trying. Mistakes mean that you are living again
Yes, indeed at times, it does in fact - suck. I know this. You know this. Sometimes life resembles an evil merry-go-round and you simply go in circles of despair, frustration and hopelessness, over-and-over again for what feels like an eternity. You feel stuck. You feel lost.
You feel hopeless.
Your sleep becomes elusive at night, yet your exhaustion threatens to overwhelm you during the day. You stress eat or your appetite flees with your sleep and you find nothing tastes good or satisfies you. You make yourself constantly busy but seem to get absolutely nothing done. Anything to keep your mind off the simple fact that - life sucks. You dread the night. You dread those moments of free time with nothing to occupy your thoughts, for it is then that your mind focuses on all that is wrong, but yet, never seems to come up with any way to make it better.
"Life sucks," he said. "Life is what you make of it," was my reply. He glared at me, thinking I was making light of his despair, I wasn't and so I continued on...
Life sucks you say. Yes, at times, it in fact does suck. Sucks bad. People hurt you. Circumstances that are beyond your control invade your life whether you want them to or not. Stress happens. Bad days happen. Hell, bad years happen. All sorts of bad happens. All sorts of good does too, but if you are so blinded by all that is bad, you will never see it. If life was constantly one perfect day after another, you would become complacent. Life would become boring and meaningless because you would stop trying to make it better. How would you appreciate all the good, being happy and amazing circumstances, if you had nothing to compare them too? You wouldn't. Your life is defined by what you do when the dark moments come. Your life is defined by breaking the cycle and finding your way out of the darkness. Your life is defined by YOU.
Yes life can suck. But, will you let that define you?
You can't find your way IF you don't get out of your own way first. You have to WANT to break the circle of the evil merry-go-round. Stop thinking and start doing. If sitting there in the darkness and letting your mind go to all that is wrong is getting you nowhere, then maybe it is time to stop. Don't think about changing. Actually change something. You can’t move on because you keep stopping yourself. Figure out why and you will figure out a way to make it happen. Understand that you can only control one thing in this world – yourself. Focus on that. Let go of trying to control others. Either change the way you think about a situation, change the way you handle it or just remove yourself completely. Forget trying to change anyone else. It never works and you will drive yourself crazy in the process. Learn to let go that which you cannot change and focus on what you can.
Life is what you make of it.
But it's so hard. But I don't know where to start. But I don't have the money. But no one understands... But-But-But. But nothing. People do not need to understand and you do not need to convince anyone of anything. Yes it's hard, nothing worthwhile in life is ever easy. You don't know where to start? Try the beginning, I find that is as good as any place, and if you don't know where the beginning is - it is where you plant your foot, stop going in circles and change directions all on your own - that is the beginning. Where you go from there is totally up to you. Will you make mistakes? Of course. Some of the biggest breakthroughs I have ever had came from a mistake. Learn from them. Don't be afraid of them. Mistakes mean that you are trying. Mistakes mean that you are living again. No money? Well, guess what? Money does in fact not make you automatically happy and content. Money can bring another slew of problems and does not solve everything. Does if help? Of course. Do you need it to change your life? Not necessarily.
Learn to think outside of the box. Try something new. Investigate life and spend the time you would have dedicated to thinking about why life sucks, to finding ways to make it suck a little less. Ask for help - it is not a sign of weakness to. Ask for ideas. Google it for crying out loud. Do something. Become the super hero of your life instead of the damn villain. Don't stop before you start - just start. Somewhere. Anywhere.
All it takes is a single step to break the cycle. Feel the fire burn in your belly. Feel it travel up and ignite you to find your happy. Reach further than you ever have before because you deserve it. You and you alone are responsible for your happiness.
Life may indeed suck. It happens.
Now, what are you going to do about it?