will always be the ones with the most to say. Let them talk.
I could defend myself, actions or decisions. I could. But, I won't. Because to explain myself would make it seem like I actually cared what she thinks. I don't. It would also play into her fantasy that she is entitled to an explanation. She isn't. Never has been. Does this stop the intrusions into my world - nope. Doesn't stop the needless potshots hoping for a reaction either. I just do what I have always done. Ignore her. Hoping eventually she will tire of the need to be privy to the inner workings of my world.
People who make assumptions about you and your life often do so in hopes that you will offer an explanation that will give them a glimpse of a life they secretly covet or show them that you require their approval in what you do. It's a control thing. A power play. My advice, don't play the game. The more you feel the need to explain yourself, the more power you give away. You are telling someone else to judge your decisions, actions or behavior in hopes that it mirrors the true reason behind doing what you did.
Let people think what they want - you can't control that. You do not need their approval. You do not need them to understand you. You do not need to explain yourself to them. They are not entitled to the inner workings of your mind. They have no privilege to your thoughts or actions. If they get you, great. If they don't, screw 'em. Stop giving your power away. Stop feeling the need to explain your actions. You wanted that double chocolate cupcake. So you bought it. The end. You deal with you on it. Eat the damn cupcake and when someone looks to you and asks; “Do you really need that cupcake?" Look them square in the eye and reply; "What's it to you?"
The only one you need to be good with at the end of the day - is you. Resist the need to explain yourself. Be confident. Own your life. Trust yourself. If you need approval go look in the mirror and remind yourself of your reasons.
Remember, the ones who know the least about you - will always be the ones with the most to say. Let them talk.
Just be you and be happy - it drives them crazy.