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Note to Self.

2/11/2013

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There comes a point in life when you need to silence all the outside voices and only listen to yourself. You have  to learn to listen to the voice of your soul for it knows best what you need to hear, need to learn and need to know.  Stop silencing it. That little voice is your instinct, your strength and the culmination of your life experiences. 

Listen when your soul speaks...

Dear Self,

I need to talk to you. You won't hear me when I try to come through your dreams or when I pass random thoughts through your head during the day. There are some things I need you to hear, to appreciate and to get through your thick skull. I watch your daily struggles. I see you in the mornings getting ready for work and can hear your thoughts as you look in the mirror. I feel the pain as you bite your tongue over and over again failing to speak your mind and stand up for yourself. I see you dealing with the past and I see your lack of trust in the future.

Self- You and I need to talk.

Stop second guessing yourself. Trust is something that is learned- I understand that. I know it is something you struggle with time after time. But if you can't learn to trust yourself, you will never learn to trust another. You need this lesson. You need to learn to trust. Same thing with letting people in. Keeping people at arm’s length because you don't want them to have the power to hurt you- is hurting you. I know you have been hurt in the past. I have felt every betrayal and cried every tear with you. But holding the people in your life accountable for the actions of those that came before is simply not going to work anymore.

You are tired. I feel the heaviness in your step and the weight on your shoulders. Giving and receiving is a balance in life and if you keep giving and giving you will end up empty and of no use to anyone. Especially yourself. No one else is going to force you to step back and give yourself some time. It is not their job. It is yours and yours alone. Use your words.  Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of maturity and gives the people in your life a chance to step up. They need this as much as you do.

You are not a robot. Emotions need to be felt fully and appreciated. Happiness is awesome but sometimes it just doesn't happen. You have been through hell and back over the past few years. Give yourself time to appreciate your journey. Give yourself time to heal.  Understand that this doesn't make you weak. It makes you human. Understand Self that you will never break. You may bend at times or fall to your knees- but you will always, always pick yourself back up. This goes back to the learning to trust yourself lesson. Learn it.

You are not your past. You are not your history. You are your today and your future. Your life is not defined by where you come from, what you have faced or where you are going. It is defined by what you do in each moment. How you face your challenges, how you treat others and how you treat yourself. I know you have been hurt by the actions of people you cared about. Shit happens sometimes. We both know life ain't always pretty nor is it always easy. But it is worth it.

Taking care of everyone around you is admirable. But you have got to take care of yourself too. Stop denying those nagging pains, doctor's appointments or massages you secretly crave but never splurge on. You work hard. You deserve it. See to it that you get what you need. Own your life and give to it what you so freely give to others. Stop being a damn martyr. You want something- then get off your butt and go for it. Expect no one to motivate you but yourself. Listen to yourself. Stop being your own worst enemy and just do it.

Self, we have been together since the beginning of time. Through heartbreaks and tears, triumphs and losses, I have always been proud of you. Proud of your accomplishments and proud of your failures for you never fail to see the lesson in them. Stop silencing me when I tell you these things. Hear me loud and clear. These negative thoughts of yours come from a voice that needs to be silenced once and for all.  Silence it. For the both of us. It hurts our heart when I hear you put yourself down.

Remember all those years ago when you and I last had a heart to heart talk? It was a moment when you had let your defenses down and my voice came through. You heard me loud and clear before you shut me out. I am your instinct. I am the beat of your heart and the firing synapses in your mind. I am the culmination of everything you have worked so hard for. I am the tears you have cried, the smiles you have beamed and the faith that you have in yourself. Stop silencing me and believe. Believe in yourself. Trust your internal power and the sheer force of your soul. Stop playing small. Stop walking away and learn to fight for yourself. Know your worth. Know it from the depths of your soul. The world doesn't give it to you. Relationships don’t give it to you. Nothing outside yourself is capable of defining your worth, only you. Stop selling yourself short and live out loud. Live authentically and live to the best of you. The world needs it. The world needs you and all you have to offer.

But first you must hear me when I talk to you. Whatever life brings for good or for worse- always believe in yourself. Stop silencing that little voice inside your soul. For that little voice is the champion of your existence and will never ever let you down. Believe in it and believe in yourself once and for all.

Thanks for finally listening.

Love,
          Yourself

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75 Comments
terry
2/11/2013 12:47:32 pm

brilliant...just brilliant. This really is what you should be doing each and every single day. You amaze me. Thank you.

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Random Jenn
2/11/2013 11:42:05 pm

Your comment is so sweet! Thank you so much for reading this and taking the time to send me such an awesome comment. ♥~Jenn

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Sandra
3/9/2013 12:51:37 pm

Thank you for this beautiful writing... Oh my this is so me. Seeing this before me was eye opening. Thank you thank you!

Chris
2/11/2013 01:14:12 pm

Thank you, this is awesome and exactly hit home and what I so needed to hear!!

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Random Jenn
2/11/2013 11:44:27 pm

I am so thrilled to read that this resonated with you!! I hope Chris you listen to that little voice every single day from here on out :) Thank you for your comment. Jenn

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Sylvia
2/11/2013 07:48:18 pm

Wow. This resonates with what seems to be my theme for the week: to remember who I am. I love this part, "Stop walking away and learn to fight for yourself. Know your worth." As someone who has walked away, rather than fought for myself, I think it's time for me to step up. I think I deserve to be defended. Maybe I will still need to walk away sometimes, but maybe I also need to remember my worth and stick up for myself. You have given me something to ponder... thanks!

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Random Jenn
2/11/2013 11:46:36 pm

I love to make people think :) Sometimes they don't love me for it but it always seems to work out in the end. :) Always fight for yourself and always listen to the voice of your soul. I find when I ignore it is when I get myself into trouble.

Thanks for your comment!
~Jenn

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 11:59:38 am

Sylvia!!

You most certainly deserve to be defended. Walking away is ok at times but not always. You are worth the sun and the moon and the stars!! Remember that. Always.

☼Jenn

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Anita
2/12/2013 12:44:56 am

this is exactly what i needed to read - today! thank you from the bottom of my heart!

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Random Jenn
2/12/2013 11:50:04 am

Anita,

I am so happy that this meant something to you! Thank you so much for your comment.

~Jenn

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judy Griffin link
2/12/2013 06:46:18 am

This article was absolutely beautiful. It really resonated for me. Thank you. Through a tragedy I really learned to trust listen to my inner self.

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Random Jenn
2/12/2013 11:51:39 am

Judy,

I am touched by your message. I understand tragedy and how it can show you parts of your soul you never knew existed. Always listen to that voice of yours it will never fail you.

Big Hugs,
~Jenn

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Mart
2/12/2013 07:30:07 am

Dear Jen,
thank you so much for these amazingly beautiful words!!
I really need to hear them!
Thanks a lot!!!

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Random Jenn
2/12/2013 11:53:11 am

Mart- Thank you so much for your comment and reading this piece. I wish for you strength and courage to face whatever it is before you! You can do it.

~Jenn

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Mart
2/12/2013 08:50:41 pm

Thank you, again!!!!

Lee Harrington
2/12/2013 10:52:37 am

You are a wonderful discovery for me. I cherish these words and will share and immerse myself in them again and again.

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Random Jenn
2/13/2013 11:27:29 pm

Lee,

Reading your comment was so inspiring to me. It is comments like this that fuel me on. To dig deeper and write more. I thank you. I am so glad you found my little corner of the web and hope to hear from you again and again ♥

~Jenn

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frances
2/12/2013 06:03:12 pm

This was a very inspiring and insightful to me and I will read it over and over again. I love reading your page and blogs

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Random Jenn
2/13/2013 11:28:57 pm

Frances,

Thank you!! I love your comment and am so grateful to have you here. I promise to give you as much of my writing as I possibly can. Thank you for being here.

~Jenn

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Peggy Coon
2/13/2013 08:12:56 am

Your words are so beautiful. makes me feel as if it is myself talking to me. I needed to read this, which I did several times and let it just soak into my soul. I have saved this page so that I can come back and reread it again so I do not allow the world to take over me and loose who I am. Thank you Very Beautiful!

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Random Jenn
2/13/2013 11:31:43 pm

Peggy,

I know how easy it is to get caught up in life sometimes. Taking that step back to listen to yourself is key. I am so happy that this piece resonated with you. Thank you for your comment and compliments. You inspire me to keep writing and I am thankful for that.

xoxo
~Jenn

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Pam
2/15/2013 01:22:08 am

Only God could have sent this to me this morning. These words touched the depths of my soul....what a blessing. I am printing this today to read everyday.

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Random Jenn
2/15/2013 05:03:36 am

Oh Pam your comment touched my heart. I am thrilled that this meant something to you. Thank you so much for telling me this. Big Hugs to you!

~Jenn

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Annie link
2/15/2013 01:22:42 am

Beyond brilliant. Just what I needed to read this morning. Thank you!

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Random Jenn
2/15/2013 05:04:45 am

Annie,

Thank you for the compliment!! It is so nice to read when something I wrote touches people. It fuels me on and I am grateful.

xoxo
~Jenn

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Ali
2/15/2013 07:02:26 am

Wow this is amazing, well done kiddo

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Random Jenn
2/16/2013 01:30:45 pm

Thank you!

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Pat
2/16/2013 06:32:14 am

I'm with Pam....Only God could have sent this to me this morning. These words touched the depths of my soul....what a blessing YOU are in my life! Thank you!!

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Random Jenn
2/16/2013 01:31:56 pm

Pat,

You touched my heart with your comment. Thank you so much.

♥Jenn

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Ghassan
2/18/2013 05:22:21 am

You are not Just Jenn you are some one "there are no words to say what i think of you", buy posting this, it is as you know me and talking to me to make me stronger ,remind me for who I am and not let the world to take over me. Thank you Thank you Thank you

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 11:56:56 am

Ohh Ghassan you are so very sweet to say so ♥ Thank you so much and never ever let the world take you over. You are strong and worth all the good there is in the world.

Be strong!
Jenn

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Dolby Dubrow link
2/21/2013 03:50:01 am

Amazing-well expressed..Thank you for being the voice of reason, however that manifests....OM OM OM so much love

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 11:57:53 am

♥ Dolby as always you are so sweet.
Namaste, Jenn

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Dottie
3/3/2013 03:46:03 pm

I loved your blog.....so intense and much to think about. I am so glad for you to listen to your thoughts......you are a brilliant person.One of the replys mentioned, God sent this to them for them to read........God is right there on our doorstep, he says just knock and he will answer. I know he did for me, nothing in this world could compare...<3

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 12:06:14 pm

Your comment touched my heart dear Dottie. Thank you. I am so happy that you were lead here and found me and my random thoughts. I look forward to hearing from you again.

Thank you,
Jenn

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deeeja link
3/4/2013 10:05:20 am

Words that fill the space.. Thank you

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Shelly
3/9/2013 06:22:15 am

Wow.. thank you. This is something I have been struggling to put into words!!! You have a wonderful gift!

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 12:00:38 pm

Thank you Shelly! Your comment made me smile.

~Jenn

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Rita Kothbauer
3/9/2013 08:33:00 am

Thank you so much for reminding me of who I used to be before I started losing hope.

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 12:02:32 pm

Rita..

Something I have learned- one never really loses hope. We just forget where we put it and need to spend some time looking for it. In looking for it you will reconnect with yourself and get to where you need to be. Promise.

♥Jenn

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Julie
3/9/2013 11:50:58 am

What a wonderful and brilliant reminder....thank you so very much....Namaste x

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Random Jenn
3/9/2013 12:03:34 pm

You my friend are more than welcome. ♥

Blessings,
Jenn

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BlogwatiG link
3/9/2013 05:49:14 pm

Such a heart warming post. Beautifully penned, soulful and truthful. Sometimes, it pays to love others but it is always fulfilling to love yourself. Glad I stopped by.

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Random Jenn
3/14/2013 11:05:23 am

I am glad you stopped by too!! Thank you for such a heartfelt comment ♥ Look forward to hearing from you again :)

Jenn

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Lazy Pineapple link
3/10/2013 07:42:49 pm

What a beautiful post. I was nodding at each sentence. This post helped me to remember my own strengths. Thank you.

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Random Jenn
3/14/2013 11:07:33 am

Thank you L.P. I am so happy to read that you are getting back your strength! I hope it carries through from this day forward :) Thank you so much for your comment.

Jenn

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Angela
3/12/2013 02:15:34 am

Thank you.

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Random Jenn
3/14/2013 11:08:31 am

You are more than welcome Angela ♥

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rab124
3/12/2013 01:25:50 pm

well at least there are a whole bunch of us in the same boat, and I think we just elected you captain, Jenn! Excellently, thoughtfully and carefully written and I thank you for your encouraging words

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Random Jenn
3/14/2013 11:09:54 am

Let's set sail!! I am in :) Thank you rab for reading and commenting! I would be honored to be the Captain of this ship..

Jenn

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karen
4/13/2013 01:03:25 am

Thank you for sharing so openly it
is important to sit down and have a heart to heart talk with our inner self

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Random Jenn
4/13/2013 03:07:43 am

Karen,

The older I get the more I realize how important it really is to listen to that little voice inside my head. And to trust in it. Thank you so much for your comment.

~Jenn

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Judy
8/16/2013 05:22:03 am

This resonated with me so strongly today. Life hasn't always been kind and I sorely needed to hear this. Thanks so much for the clarity! I will use it wisely.

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Random Jenn
9/10/2013 11:50:53 am

Judy,

I am touched that this resonated with you and that it was something you needed. Thank you so much for commenting ♥

xoxo ~Jenn

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Holly
8/16/2013 05:43:08 am

I so needed to read this.... Tears sprung into my eyes!!!! Beautiful

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Random Jenn
9/10/2013 11:51:29 am

Much love to you Holly.

xoxo ~Jenn

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Jennifer Timberlake
8/16/2013 04:01:16 pm

~Thank you for penning such encouraging words~You have touched my soul :) <3

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Random Jenn
9/10/2013 11:52:03 am

As you have touched mine with your comment. Stay strong Jennifer.

xoxo ~Jenn

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rab
8/17/2013 11:02:38 am

well, I guess Somebody decided I needed to read this again - got a notice in my e-mail that someone had commented, so came back and read it twice today. Jenn - thank you again for stepping inside my head/heart/soul and seeing the upheaval going on in there - saying a prayer for all of us tonight

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Random Jenn
9/10/2013 11:53:27 am

Funny how the universe brings us exactly what we need when we need it most. I hope that your heart, head and soul has found some peace my friend.

xoxo ~Jenn

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Cindy
8/28/2013 02:09:39 am

love this! It was just what I needed to read. I really do need to stop and listen to my inner voice... it's been talking, I just haven't been paying attention. Too busy trying to make everyone else happy. Thank you for the encouragement I needed at this moment.

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Random Jenn
9/10/2013 11:54:55 am

Here is a reminder to always, always listen to that little voice. Your soul needs to be heard. Remember that an empty cup cannot quench anyone's thirst. So it is with your happiness. Make time for you.

xoxo ~Jenn

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Mart
10/16/2014 06:58:44 am

Well here I am again...
and again truly touched by your words
So grateful for your comment :
You wrote me that I can do it...
I'm in a very painful emotional proces...
Your words give me so much hope
and ...
trust in myself!
Thank you, once again!

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Maria
10/16/2014 01:42:18 pm

Truly beautiful, thank you. It's as if you read my mind. I find myself struggling with the exact same situation.

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Barb
2/4/2015 11:58:46 am

Holy wow. Holy, holy wow. Wow. Thank you.

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Janice
2/4/2015 11:30:08 pm

I believe you were talking directly to me! I have been paralyzed by anxiety and fear for some time now. I KNOW that the voice inside me, the one that keeps screaming for me to listen, is telling me that I need to make some changes and live authentically. I have been home from work for 3 days now, unable to get myself ready, unable to face the outside world. It feels like a hand pushing me back every time I try to get out there. I have had to be strong, for everyone else, most of my life. I now live with someone who believes that I am weak because they don't understand how I cannot seem to break free. I am tired of making excuses to everyone, including my boss. I have a great job that I enjoy but somewhere, deep down, I guess I really don't. I am confused, sad, angry and exhausted from fighting myself, day in, day out. I could sleep all day and think nothing of it. I keep telling myself and others that I need a "mental vacation". Thank you for your candid writing and your insight into my world. <3

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Ellen plonski
2/8/2015 07:46:45 am

Wow that's deep!!! Need to read this often!

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Jegir Doski link
2/8/2015 08:04:47 am

Everybody needs this note, every single day...! Thank you for sharing!
I had a request... can I use this script? for making a motivational video about self-love? I just want to use this whole script in Kurdish language...! if you give me permission I'd love to... Thank you again.

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Heather
2/8/2015 12:34:05 pm

"STOP being a damn martyr!" Good that rings true for me. As a massage therapist, I'm ALWAYS healing people, mashing then feel better physically and emotionally, but I almost never take the time to get a massage myself! I work myself to the point of injury to help others and feel sorry for myself when I hurt... yet I don't even SHOW how much I value my own career field by saving my Money to GET a massage regularly! Thank you for the frank, honest writing that everyone needs to read, then write their own letter to Self. How can we get our needs met, from ANY source, if we don't even listen to our Self to find out what they are?

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loretta starnes
2/8/2015 03:05:00 pm

Enough said... it was a perfect and authentic pep talk to oneself. Why is it we can always gives these talks to other people but find it hard to give and receive it to oneself..

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Sherry Lynn
2/8/2015 03:24:21 pm

Absolutely beautiful! I really needed to read this :-) Thank you for posting and I will be going back to read it when I need this reminder!

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carol
2/8/2015 08:58:15 pm

Such a lovely thing to read I will save and read again thank you so much makes such a lot of sense for me

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Carol aldridge
2/8/2015 08:59:58 pm

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Allison
5/14/2015 05:46:50 am

Like everyone who commented, I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I would choose a specific point you made but every one of them was spot on. You know how I feel about you-- you are amazing!

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Jenn
1/7/2020 11:30:25 pm

A beautiful piece Jenn. My vibrations got higher and higher as I read, truly taking in each word ~ they all resonated. This could be read like a daily positive affirmation, as I tend to forget real easy, especially when it comes to self care. Thanks for resharing! Cheers ☕

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