Live your life according to what YOU want to see, touch and accomplish.
Of course I laughed, what she had just told me was ludicrous. A malicious rumor of course, but hysterical in that there were some who just may believe it. I giggled harder. She looked more and more perplexed. Reaching across the table to touch the top of my hand, she asked me, looking very concerned; "Are you in the process of losing it right now?" Me lose it. Hardly. I was laughing at the sheer audacity of what was being said and because I knew, without any doubt, who had said it in the first place.
People talk about you all the time and unless you are Mother Theresa (I'm most definitely not) what they say may not always be positive or make you look like the awesome human being you are. I won't say what comes out of other people can't hurt you - it can. Words are incredibly powerful. I also won't say the people in your life will necessarily not believe what they hear, some will. Some will take the words of another and judge you, sentence you and use them against you if given the chance.
What I will say - you don't need these people in your life. At all.
What other people think about you - is none of your business. Not in the least bit. Their thoughts about you are nothing you should ever concern yourself with, change yourself over or allow to interfere with your life. Why you ask? Simply put- doesn't matter.
What people think about you is less of a true representation of who you are and more of a direct reflection of themselves. People who have little to no self-confidence, a heart full of hate or jealousy, will project that out to the world and onto others so as to make themselves feel better. It never works for them and can turn into a viscous cycle. The important thing to remember - it is not a cycle you need to concern yourself with. It is not a battle you need to fight, because what they think and say - doesn't matter. What they think and say about you only hurts if you let it. You have the power to deflect it back to the source and bother yourself with it no more. You have had the power all along.
As long as you understand yourself. As long as you know who you are on the inside. As long as you continue to live authentically - no one, not friends or family, will ever be able to take the peace you have worked so hard for - away. Because it is not theirs. Never was. It is their limited capacity to see beyond themselves, to what they need to change to feel better about their existence, that holds them back - not you. Never was you. I know it is hard to not take it personally but it never was about you. Those who speak horrible things, judge you or blame you for all that is wrong in their lives - have absolutely no place in your life or and maybe most importantly, in your thoughts. I don't care if they are family. I don't care if you have known them since forever - If someone is constantly trying to bring you down, make you look foolish or out to be anything you most definitely not - shut them down. Don't play into them. Don't bother to try and change their mind. That is not your job.
Your job - Well your job is to the live as you see fit. Your job is to honor yourself. Your job is to let your confidence roar and your light shine. So many will bask in your light and see you for exactly who you are. Those friends who will believe in you no matter what - cherish them and hold them close.
The others - well, just know that by living happy and authentically, is all the justice you will ever need. Don’t give them another thought. They do not deserve to be in your world, mind or consciousness. Laugh it off because you know without any doubt – you do not need anyone’s approval to shine.