They could not bring themselves to write one thing they loved. Not one thing they were proud of about themselves. One lady mentioned her children, one that she liked dogs. What came next were a few excuses as to why no one wrote anything positive. "I would sound so conceited," "I would sound bitchy," "I can't toot my own horn," "I have nothing nice to say about me - I let others do that.” Letting the world validate them and determine their worth.
Look hard enough, long enough and you will see validation everywhere to what you are feeling bad about. Be it body image, social status, reputation, history, money, family or whatever - look hard enough and take the things you read or see out in the world personally and you will never, ever figure out how awesome and perfectly okay you are. What you will find are articles telling you how fat or too thin you are, how to get more friends by changing everything unique about you, how to get rich because then people will like you, articles saying that if you change everything about you doors magically open up and opportunities will present themselves to you. But first you must change into some creation another person deems acceptable.
The only thing one must change in order to become more acceptable to the world - is their OWN thinking.
It is about knowing it is okay and even highly recommended - to love yourself. It is okay to say nice things about yourself and to "toot your own horn." Doesn't make you conceited or a bitch. It makes you confident. It makes you your own best friend and not your worst enemy. Being okay and happy with you is part of what this journey through life is all about.
Remember this though – not every single person in this world is going to accept you, love you or give a rat’s ass about you. It’s okay. They don't have to. It doesn't negate you, make you any less worthy. It just means they lose out. People do not have to like you to make you awesome. You have to like you. It really is that simple.
You have to like you.
Feel bad and hate yourself, the world accepts that and gives you validation that you do in fact suck. Feel good about who you are and love the person you have become, the world accepts that, too. Because you accept it. It is in your attitude, your carriage and in the way you face your days and all you meet - head up, eyes forward and confidant.
So what if you make mistakes? So what if you're not perfect? So what if someone has more success or more money than you? So what if someone else's kids seem to behave better? So what if someone is fatter than you or skinny than you?
Who the hell cares?
Stop comparing. Stop wishing for someone else's life, body, kids, money or job. Stop looking to the world to validate you and learn to validate yourself.
Say five nice things to yourself every single day. Write them down. Repeat them while looking in the mirror. Stop being a jerk to the one person in this world you know you can count on - yourself.
Figure this out and the world will too. Or maybe it won't but you won't care anymore because you are right with you and that's all that matters.