Our actions determine our life. Our actions determine our happiness, our success and our failures. Yet when we make a mistake we spend more time finding other people to blame and creating excuses as to why something isn't our fault, then we do fixing it and making it better so that we can move on.
I was having a conversation the other day with a friend. He is always late. His excuse is that tardiness runs in his family, he can't help it. Really? I have another friend who has a daughter in her early twenties who has made some really poor life decisions as of late. What 20 year old doesn't? But to hear her mother talk none of it is her daughter's fault. "She takes after her father- he is so lazy."Or my personal favorite- "she keeps losing her jobs because she is just like me and can't focus on boring things like answering phones." I looked at my friend and asked her if she thought making excuses for her daughter was helping her in the long run. What was she teaching her? She made me shake my head when she said, "Moms are supposed to cover for their children.” No, parents are supposed to teach their children to be responsible for their actions. Teach them to make good decisions and how to learn from their mistakes. Teach them cause and effect. Teach them that their decisions directly affect their life.
You have 100% control of only one thing in this life. Yourself.
Your health, your time management, your happiness and your life is no one's responsibility but your own. Own your mistakes. Stop blaming bad habits on family traits. Break the cycle. If everyone in your family has the same problem- be the one that owns it and DOES something about it. Stop letting it go just because everyone else has.
Take responsibility for your life and stop finding excuses, scapegoats and reasons why something wrong isn't your fault. If you need help- ask for it. If you need to learn how- research it. If you need to stop making the same mistakes over and over again- look for the reasons behind why you do what you do. If you stop blaming outside forces for your own mistakes- you will find solutions so much faster.
Stop the: “It is not my fault because…” and instead try the: “Yes I screwed up, now what am I going to do about it…”
Take Responsibility for the only thing in this life you can control- YOU!